
Like Abraham and Sarah, Epperly says, each of us is blessed to be a blessing. "Blessedness is the gift of a larger perspective on our lives. . . God's vision of your personal adventure includes those you will directly touch and those who are shaped indirectly through your blessing of others. . . Each of our actions has consequences that radiate out into the universe, shaping the lives of persons we will never meet." (pg. 91) That the smallest things we do can positively influence the lives of others half a world away is often difficult to see. But this is our calling, and one of the ways God chooses to work in the world. Can you think of a time someone's seemingly insignificant action positively influenced the course of your life?
Epperly invites us to make a conscious effort to bless everyone we meet. For example, he says, we may do this through "letting another go first in the checkout line, picking up a dropped parcel for someone, or smiling at a stranger . . . calling your government representative about a piece of legislation and expressing your opinion clearly but kindly; taking a moment to say hello and affirming by your personal acknowledgement the holiness of a homeless person as you drop a coin in his or her can; making yourself available to help a harried father or mother at the grocery store; working cheerfully on a Habitat for Humanity project; praying for each person who comes into your house of worship; or finding a common cause with someone whose political views differ from your own." (pg. 95) In my own life, I have been blessed by small acts of kindness from varied and often unexpected sources. An offer of friendship from a child my own age of an ethnic group I had been told to mistrust; a word of encouragement and acceptance from a teacher at a moment when I questioned my own worth as a person; a kiss of blessing from a man who survived the Holocaust with his fait
h and joy intact -- all these and more were gifts of a moment that changed my life. And though I do not fully understand it, I believe that the blessings I have given, consciously and unconsciously, continue to influence the lives of others. By God's design, this web of interconnectedness is the way the world works.It is amazing enough to think that our smallest actions change the experience of other people we will never meet, but Epperly does not stop there. He asserts that our thoughts and actions even influence the experience of God. "God is not merely a judge who objectively evaluates our lives from a distance. God feels our lives from inside and receives our experience into God's own life. Christian ethics asks, 'How will my actions shape my neighbor's life and bring justice and shalom to the world?' It also asks, 'How will my actions shape God's experience? Will my actions give God a more beautiful or an uglier world?'" (pg. 105) This was an astounding revelation for me. Like so much in Epperly's book, it flies in the face of the traditional teaching many of us grew up with, in which God is immovable and nothing we do makes much of a difference to God one way or another. In that view, God is always just doing God's thing and we do ours. What God does certainly influences us, but to think of the reverse being true borders on heresy in such a worldview. When we believe that our lives can shape God's experience, however, will we not consider our actions even more carefully?
God invites us to experience the holy in unexpected places, Epperly says, most notably in "the least of these," to use Jesus's words. The most vulnerable people in our lives and in our world are "the least of these," and in serving them, Jesus told us, we serve him. What we often neglect, however, is what we can learn from them. Most of us are more comfortable giving than receiving. We like to be in a position of privilege and power in which we can give of our abundance, and deceive ourselves that we need nothing. While our needs may not be material at this moment, we are still in need. Those people that we are able to serve in tangible ways may be able to give us a new understanding of God's dream of interconnectedness for the world, as, in Epperly's words, the Christ in them greets the Christ in us. Together, we can affirm one another's worth as people created in the image of God, something we all need and which cannot be bought. And who knows? Tomorrow our situations may be reversed, and we may find ourselves the ones on the receiving end of material help.
One way we may be able to influence the lives of others we never meet is through prayer. This is a bit of a tricky subject, because in all honesty, I can't begin to tell you how prayer "works." In some cases, it seems that prayers for a person's healing or even a global event can work miracles. I met a person once who was convinced that the united prayers of American churches were the only thing that averted the Cuban missile crisis. Working in a hospital, I do sometimes see incredible recoveries in patients after I and their families have prayed for them. At other times, however, I see patients who were prayed for and loved just as much continue to suffer debilitating illness and even die. There is no formula that I have been able to discern. Though also uncertain about the how
, Epperly is convinced that prayer can be a powerful force for good in the world. He writes that "as we ponder the power of prayer to shape the world, we can visualize our prayers creating a positive 'field of force' around those for whom we pray, enabling them to be more attentive to God's dream for their lives and opening the door for more lively expressions of divine love and relatedness in the world. As a nonlocal causal phenomenon, prayer touches others immediately without the need of any form of physical contact. In many ways, all prayer is 'distant healing' prayer. Our prayerful intentions for the highest and best of another also enable God to transform that person's world in new and creative ways." (pg. 104) As an exercise in our small group last week, we each took a section of the newspaper and prayed through it. In matters that were out of our hands, such as the global economy, the war in Afghanistan, the continuing sin of racism, and others, we asked for God's help and influence in the lives of those affected. Praying through the news is a spiritual discipline that can help alleviate our sense of powerlessness, and connect us to the larger world in surprising ways. Our prayers can remind us to operate from a sense of divine abundance, rather than being paralyzed by our own scarcity of resources. Epperly affirms that "living in terms of abundance is the result of perceiving our connectedness to God, loved ones, and the wider community, regardless of our inner or outer conditions of poverty or wealth." (pg. 95)Partnering with God to heal the world also involves forgiveness, Epperly reminds us. This is something I think we all struggle with, and much of the problem lies in our faulty ideas of what forgiveness means. We are told as children to "forgive and forget," or when someone apologizes to us for a wrong done, to say, "That's okay. I forgive you." But when we have truly been hurt, sinned against, that is most definitely not okay, and forgetting may be impossible. Instead, Epperly gives us a different definition of forgiveness. "Forgiving is not forgetting, but transforming the meaning of the past in the present moment. . . In authentic forgiveness, the past event is not forgotten but experienced as an opportunity for greater freedom, love, and creativity. This does not mean that we minimize its impact. . . As a spiritual discipline, forgiveness is a gentle process. It cannot be hurried. To find wholeness, we must fully experience our anger, hatred, depression, and despair about life's traumatic experiences." (pg. 113) God does not expect us to quickly shake hands and make up with one who has abused or traumatized us. But we are called, as God's people, to consider our own and others' need for forgiveness in a realistic and humanizing manner. Each one who hurts us is a person created in God's image, just as we are, who has done wrong, just as we have in various ways. God stands ready to forgive each of us, and to teach us, in time, how to forgive as well. "To forgive is not only to affirm our value as God's beloved children but also to recognize that same holiness in those whose actions temporarily disguise God's presence. While we will not allow ourselves to be abused or treated unjustly, we also look for signs of healing in the most unlikely of places as we work for the healing of ourselves, our families, and the earth." (pg. 114)
One member of the class asked this week if forgiveness meant we had to stay in relationship with one who has hurt us. As Christians, we are often told to put others' needs above our own, and to some extent, this
is a good thing. But failing to take care of ourselves is just as wrong as neglecting the needs of others. In the last day of readings this week, Epperly focuses on Jesus's command in Mark 12:31 that we should love our neighbors as we love ourselves. Many of us are guilty of ignoring the second part of that commandment. We have sanctified self-denial to the point that many Christians push themselves to the brink of burnout in the name of service to God. This was surely not God's intention. Epperly tells us, "We cannot wisely love others until we know how to love ourselves -- and do it! In the dynamic and interdependent fabric of life, our wholeness and well-being and the wholeness and well-being of others are indivisible. Indeed, we cannot achieve our vocation in life apart from one another. . . We find God's presence not only in the natural world but also in the face of our neighbor and in our own personal adventures." (pg. 118) God's sabbath rest is an integral part of the creation story, and being co-creators alongside God means allowing ourselves moments of sabbath, as well. As we journey with God looking for ways to heal the world this week, let us remember to care for ourselves as part of that world.Here are some of Epperly's daily affirmations on which to meditate this week. Choose one or more to integrate into your own adventure.
God blesses me so I can be a blessing.
I bless each person I meet.
God's abundance flows through my life toward others.
I expect great things from God in (a particular situation).
I give and receive God's love in every encounter.
I am constantly giving and receiving grace and love throughout the day.
I see God in (a particular person).
I do something beautiful for God in every situation.
God loves my enemies as well as me.
I experience God's presence in (a difficult person or political figure).
I forgive myself and claim God's love for me.
God is with me as I seek to forgive (a particular person).
I love myself just as I am.
I treat myself with love, taking time for rest and refreshment.
Some questions to think about this week and respond to in the comments below:
Where do you experience God's blessing in your life? In what ways do you bless others?
Where have you experienced a small action making a tremendous difference in your life or in the life of another? What are the implications for our faith?
Reflect on the difference between living by abundance and living by scarcity. How do these different ways of living reflect our faith and trust in God?
How do you feel when you consider that your actions shape God's experience? What would you like to give to God?
How do you experience God in "the least of these"? In your enemies? In your neighbor? In yourself?










